You feel your relationship is suffering a little and you think both of you aren’t on the same wavelength anymore. You think the relationship is worth saving, but you don’t know how to bridge the gap between you both to rebuild the intimacy you desire.
If you feel the relationship is worth saving and worth the effort to get it to grow, there are some things you can do in order to heal the wounds and move forward together as a strong couple.
1. Talk things out with each other. Always let the other person know what your feelings are, what you want out of life and things you would like to do. You have to remember that your partner can’t read your mind and will need you to tell them what you want. If they don’t know, how are they going to give you what you need in the relationship?
2. Be open and honest. Don’t waste time and effort trying to play mind games with your partner. You can’t expect them to read between the lines and know that when you say, “I’m fine,” it really means you’re fuming inside. The longer you take to get the truth to the surface, the longer it will be until you’re in a truly happy relationship.
3. Trust one another. Trust is what makes a relationship grow into a healthy one and allows intimacy to come into play. Without trust, a relationship will only continue on a destructive path and prevent true intimacy from becoming a part of your partnership.
4. Spend some “we” time together as a couple without your family and friends tagging along with you. In order for a relationship to flourish, it needs you to spend a little time with each other - basically getting to know one another - and what your likes and dislikes are.
When you feel you know your partner well enough, intimacy will come much easier when others aren’t trying to get in your way. And don’t think that just because you’ve known your partner for 15 years, then you still know what it is they like and don’t like – people change over time and so do their preferences.
5. Go on a romantic trip together. Pick a spot that you can have some fun together while getting to know your lover a little more. A trip can help eliminate stress in a relationship and allows you to be more yourself with your partner.
You can be more relaxed with him or her, which breaks down the walls and allows intimacy to come through. Also, couples who took vacations reported a happier marriage overall than those who hadn’t been on a trip together in the last six years.
6. Be flexible with each other. You’ll need a little give and take in your relationship. If you expect your partner to go to a play with you when they’re not interested in the activity, then you should be willing to do something with them that you’re not interested in. Give and take is an excellent way to build intimacy in your relationship.
Building intimacy doesn’t have to be that hard to do. As long as both partners work to bridge the gap, they can build a healthy relationship that could involve a healthy level of closeness and compatibility.
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Rebuilding intimacy can help to save your marriage, you should give more time with each other, talk about anything and share what you feel.
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Sunday, October 4, 2009
Friday, October 2, 2009
Prayers can save your marriage
Save our marriages. Together we can win the fight to save our marriages.
Lord,
Thank you for being here among us and giving us hope and comfort and knowledge that with YOU, all is possible. Even the heart of a wicked person can be softened and saved because you love all your children and give grace to those who will seek you and repent.
All of us here want to restore our marriages and make them become what you intended marriage to be. Some of us have done wrong and sinned against you, but have asked your forgiveness and see the wrongness of our ways. Some of us have had spouses that have done wrong, and need to have your strength within us to learn to forgive as you have forgiven us; some of us have spouses that may be continuing to do wrong, and we need your help in getting them to see that any way that is not your way, is the wrong way.
Lord please help us to look to you and then know that we can trust you to fix things for us in YOUR time, your perfect time, and not in ours. We realize that only true faith in YOU can bring us the restoration we so strongly desire for our marriages. Help us to hold our tongues when they may hurt our efforts, and learn to let YOU, our sweet Lord, do the fighting for us. Help us to remember that prayer can do wonders especially when we are praying IN YOUR WILL. Let us remember that when we get lonley, tearful, sad and depressed over our situations that help is only a prayer away, a Bible verse away. Help us to look first to YOU to solve our every need and desire and not to the world who wants to see it torn down, who wants us to rely on man and not upon God.
Lord we are not perfect like you, but we know that you love us and that you hate divorce, you hate adultery and you want marriages to succeed. Let us look to scripture to see what our roles are to be as husbands and wives. While the rest of the world takes the bible to be just some book of stories, let us remember that you intended the Bible to be our handbook to get through life, all answers can be found in your Holy Word. You are a God that does not lie. You are a God of truth. You are a God that can do anything! We must believe and trust that our prayers will be answered when it is the time that you decide they should be. Please help us as humans who are not perfect, to be strong and when we feel weak, when we feel the devil filling our minds with worry and trouble, stop and pray, and then read the Word and let not our hearts be troubled no more.
I pray for my brothers and sisters in Christ that came to this site and this thread in particular because they all know that the only way to a happy marriage is to seek Christ first and allow him to transform our sadness and sorrows into JOY that ONLY CHRIST can provide.
In Jesus name I pray.
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Prayer is a powerful way to save your troubled marriage. Believe in God that He will never leave you and your family and that He will never give you trials you cannot handle.
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Lord,
Thank you for being here among us and giving us hope and comfort and knowledge that with YOU, all is possible. Even the heart of a wicked person can be softened and saved because you love all your children and give grace to those who will seek you and repent.
All of us here want to restore our marriages and make them become what you intended marriage to be. Some of us have done wrong and sinned against you, but have asked your forgiveness and see the wrongness of our ways. Some of us have had spouses that have done wrong, and need to have your strength within us to learn to forgive as you have forgiven us; some of us have spouses that may be continuing to do wrong, and we need your help in getting them to see that any way that is not your way, is the wrong way.
Lord please help us to look to you and then know that we can trust you to fix things for us in YOUR time, your perfect time, and not in ours. We realize that only true faith in YOU can bring us the restoration we so strongly desire for our marriages. Help us to hold our tongues when they may hurt our efforts, and learn to let YOU, our sweet Lord, do the fighting for us. Help us to remember that prayer can do wonders especially when we are praying IN YOUR WILL. Let us remember that when we get lonley, tearful, sad and depressed over our situations that help is only a prayer away, a Bible verse away. Help us to look first to YOU to solve our every need and desire and not to the world who wants to see it torn down, who wants us to rely on man and not upon God.
Lord we are not perfect like you, but we know that you love us and that you hate divorce, you hate adultery and you want marriages to succeed. Let us look to scripture to see what our roles are to be as husbands and wives. While the rest of the world takes the bible to be just some book of stories, let us remember that you intended the Bible to be our handbook to get through life, all answers can be found in your Holy Word. You are a God that does not lie. You are a God of truth. You are a God that can do anything! We must believe and trust that our prayers will be answered when it is the time that you decide they should be. Please help us as humans who are not perfect, to be strong and when we feel weak, when we feel the devil filling our minds with worry and trouble, stop and pray, and then read the Word and let not our hearts be troubled no more.
I pray for my brothers and sisters in Christ that came to this site and this thread in particular because they all know that the only way to a happy marriage is to seek Christ first and allow him to transform our sadness and sorrows into JOY that ONLY CHRIST can provide.
In Jesus name I pray.
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Prayer is a powerful way to save your troubled marriage. Believe in God that He will never leave you and your family and that He will never give you trials you cannot handle.
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