By Juliette Christian Platinum Quality Author
Seeing your marriage end is one of the most horrible and mentally devastating things that you can go through in your life. You can't help but remember the ceremony, the honeymoon; all the good days with good hopes. And you don't want to accept to just let everything go and divorce. You want to save a marriage but are hopeless to do so, because everything seems to be going the wrong way.
I know all those exactly, because I have been in your shoes. I feel for you, my friend, as my marriage was ending too. I wanted to save my marriage but didn't know what to do so. All I could think of to do was to apologize over and over to my husband and beg him for forgiveness to save our marriage.
But not let's fast forward from those hard days to today: I have saved my marriage. And in saying this, I know that I am hugely understating everything: Because my husband loves me more than anything now, and I love him more than anything. Our marriage is so... awesome!
What changed? What did I do to save a marriage, that changed the whole episode so much?
It is that I have been taught to do the right things instead of apologizing and begging to my spouse. The right way of taking action to save a marriage is acknowledging that your spouse is fed up with you, and restrain yourself from doing things that would make your spouse even more fed up you. Actually, you should do the opposite of these things. How?
You should be more "inaccessible" to your spouse. Do not beg to them for anything. Do not forget that people want what they CAN'T have! This rule is working against you right now - and it is in your hands to reverse the situation so that rule will be working FOR you.
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You can do it now! Do whatever you can to save your marriage. It lies in your hands. Always think positive that you can do it. Do it for your family.
Resources on How to Save Your Marriage
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Thursday, September 10, 2009
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Trust the Power of Positive Thinking to Make Your Husband Fall in Love With You Again
By Emma Audley Platinum Quality Author
If you have been happily married for a few years, chances are that you are already witnessing some early signs of boredom, lack of spontaneity and interest from your husband. It is also highly likely that you are desperate to make your husband fall in love with you again. But have you ever wondered why it happens like this with most women? The main reason for this is that love is a very delicate and volatile feeling, which seems to evaporate all too quickly only to be replaced by frustration and nothingness. In the daily struggle for existence, the biggest casualty is love and togetherness between married couples and both of you are no exception.
What is the best course of action if you want to make your husband fall in love with you again? On one hand, if you let the situation take its own course, it might deteriorate even further and reach a point of no return; on the other hand, you do not quite know how you can make your husband fall in love with you again. You are perhaps wondering, is it at all possible? Will I appear funny if I make sudden and unfamiliar gestures to show that I love my husband? Isn't love 'supposed' to be there all the time? First of all, you have to know that it is very possible to make your husband fall in love with you again and secondly, love does not always remain where you left it last time. It is dynamic and you have to nurture it with care and concern for it to grow, no matter how close you are to your husband. Go through the tips given below to take some positive steps to make your husband fall in love with you again:
• Stop brooding over the past and stop guessing what could have gone wrong with your marriage. If you want to make your husband fall in love with you again, start thinking afresh and think positive. Thinking about a problem does not always lead you to a solution.
• The more you 'presume' the things that could have made your husband change his mind or attitude, the more time you are losing to make your husband fall in love with you again. In stead, look ahead and try to devise ways and means of reversing the deteriorating situation. You have no idea what the power of positive thinking can do to a relationship.
• Positive thinking is actually infectious. Not only do you feel the change in yourself, you would be inspiring others too and this includes your husband also. When despite the growing distance between the two of you, you take the proactive step of holding his hand and claiming that with every passing day, you love him more than yesterday, he is bound to take notice and feel the difference.
• Most women ignore their appearance once they are into a few years of marital life. Look into the mirror and you might find plenty of areas where you need to improve. Never mind if you are starting all lover again, but very little effort to improve the way you look and feel can take you closer to your husband and make your husband fall in love with you again.
• Chances are that you were so busy looking after the home and family that you forgot the fact that you need time for yourself too. Revisit the areas of your interest and re-cultivate them. A wife who has her own set of interests and is an attractive and self-confident person can be an asset to any husband.
• Bring fun and romance back in to your lives. Stop worrying about the kids, utility bills or whatever. Go out and let your hair down with your husband. Try to laugh together and you can make your husband fall in love with you again.
• To make your husband fall in love with you again, you have to love yourself and be friends with your mind. If you are constantly fighting emotions and getting angry or remorseful with any and everything around you - your ill temper is going to spread and affect others too. Learn to give and forgive. This in turn makes you a positive person, who is enthusiastic, zestful and forward looking.
Why is getting your husband back so important to you?
Because a good relationship is one of the most treasured of human interactions... especially marriage! We all want to be loved. There are the great times together, the shared dreams and visions, the mutual likes and dislikes and more. Great relationships are essential for enjoying a good quality of life. They color everything else around us.
Losing a spouse is one of the most emotionally traumatizing episodes in our life. It is amazing how the very thing that brings us the most pleasure also brings with it the most grief.
But don't give up on the love of your life yet. There is still hope! You can reverse deterioration of your marriage and successfully reconnect with your husband. Use my professional and personal experience to learn how you can bring passion back into your marriage.
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Nothing is impossible. You've done it several years before, you can still make your husband fall in love with you again. Learn to try new things and discover new ideas to keep your love alive. Believe in yourself that you can make it and that you can save your marriage. Think on the bright side, be positive!
Resources of How to Save Your Marriage
If you have been happily married for a few years, chances are that you are already witnessing some early signs of boredom, lack of spontaneity and interest from your husband. It is also highly likely that you are desperate to make your husband fall in love with you again. But have you ever wondered why it happens like this with most women? The main reason for this is that love is a very delicate and volatile feeling, which seems to evaporate all too quickly only to be replaced by frustration and nothingness. In the daily struggle for existence, the biggest casualty is love and togetherness between married couples and both of you are no exception.
What is the best course of action if you want to make your husband fall in love with you again? On one hand, if you let the situation take its own course, it might deteriorate even further and reach a point of no return; on the other hand, you do not quite know how you can make your husband fall in love with you again. You are perhaps wondering, is it at all possible? Will I appear funny if I make sudden and unfamiliar gestures to show that I love my husband? Isn't love 'supposed' to be there all the time? First of all, you have to know that it is very possible to make your husband fall in love with you again and secondly, love does not always remain where you left it last time. It is dynamic and you have to nurture it with care and concern for it to grow, no matter how close you are to your husband. Go through the tips given below to take some positive steps to make your husband fall in love with you again:
• Stop brooding over the past and stop guessing what could have gone wrong with your marriage. If you want to make your husband fall in love with you again, start thinking afresh and think positive. Thinking about a problem does not always lead you to a solution.
• The more you 'presume' the things that could have made your husband change his mind or attitude, the more time you are losing to make your husband fall in love with you again. In stead, look ahead and try to devise ways and means of reversing the deteriorating situation. You have no idea what the power of positive thinking can do to a relationship.
• Positive thinking is actually infectious. Not only do you feel the change in yourself, you would be inspiring others too and this includes your husband also. When despite the growing distance between the two of you, you take the proactive step of holding his hand and claiming that with every passing day, you love him more than yesterday, he is bound to take notice and feel the difference.
• Most women ignore their appearance once they are into a few years of marital life. Look into the mirror and you might find plenty of areas where you need to improve. Never mind if you are starting all lover again, but very little effort to improve the way you look and feel can take you closer to your husband and make your husband fall in love with you again.
• Chances are that you were so busy looking after the home and family that you forgot the fact that you need time for yourself too. Revisit the areas of your interest and re-cultivate them. A wife who has her own set of interests and is an attractive and self-confident person can be an asset to any husband.
• Bring fun and romance back in to your lives. Stop worrying about the kids, utility bills or whatever. Go out and let your hair down with your husband. Try to laugh together and you can make your husband fall in love with you again.
• To make your husband fall in love with you again, you have to love yourself and be friends with your mind. If you are constantly fighting emotions and getting angry or remorseful with any and everything around you - your ill temper is going to spread and affect others too. Learn to give and forgive. This in turn makes you a positive person, who is enthusiastic, zestful and forward looking.
Why is getting your husband back so important to you?
Because a good relationship is one of the most treasured of human interactions... especially marriage! We all want to be loved. There are the great times together, the shared dreams and visions, the mutual likes and dislikes and more. Great relationships are essential for enjoying a good quality of life. They color everything else around us.
Losing a spouse is one of the most emotionally traumatizing episodes in our life. It is amazing how the very thing that brings us the most pleasure also brings with it the most grief.
But don't give up on the love of your life yet. There is still hope! You can reverse deterioration of your marriage and successfully reconnect with your husband. Use my professional and personal experience to learn how you can bring passion back into your marriage.
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Nothing is impossible. You've done it several years before, you can still make your husband fall in love with you again. Learn to try new things and discover new ideas to keep your love alive. Believe in yourself that you can make it and that you can save your marriage. Think on the bright side, be positive!
Resources of How to Save Your Marriage
Sunday, September 6, 2009
Save a Marriage - Advice - 3 Tips to Help You Rekindle Your Love
By Stella Mak Platinum Quality Author
A lot of marriage failed because couples do not take responsibility for the role that they play in a relationship. Very often, blaming the other instead of oneself become the favourite pastime of couples and when there are conflicts, they choose the most convenient mean - walking away instead of trying to save the marriage!
Apparently these couples have short term memories because they are the same individuals who have vowed to support and to love each other through thick and thin! However, divorce has now become an easy way out for people who do not have the courage to salvage what deserves to be salvaged. When couples go through a divorce, they channel all their energies into accusing each other of causing hurt and disharmony in the marriage. They forget that in the process, their children are the ones most deeply hurt! If they have channeled their energies to save the marriage, more than one human being is saved!
So is it possible to save your marriage? Yes, if you had loved each other in the first place, you will definitely be able to rekindle the love and here are 3 ways in which you can save your marriage.
1. Share financial responsibilities
Many married couples forget that it takes two hands to clap so now that they are married, both party should be responsible for the family financially. Being married means you are united as one so you should shoulder the burden of raising a family together.
Find out each others' spending style and come to a compromise on how best you can save and at the same time not have to sting on yourself. Spend some time to prioritize what is important to you and to your family, especially if you have children. You need to come to a mutual agreement on how you can divide out the burden of financial responsibility.
2. Never go to bed angry
I strongly believe that this is very sound advice to building a lasting relationship because you and your spouse are two very different individuals so there are bound to be conflicts. The important point is that you must find ways to resolve those conflicts. By all means take time off to cool down but after a storm, both of you have to sit down and discuss the issue together. You have to listen to each other and find a solution or come to a compromise but never leave the fight overnight.
It is very unhealthy to go to bed angry and you will only cause a drift in the relationship if you do not try to resolve your problem first. After which, you should forget about the fight and make up for it in bed. It is vital to forget about the problem after the fight had been resolved if you want to save your marriage.
3. Plan time for romance
Many married couples forget to plan a time for romance, especially if they have children. In order for a marriage to last long, it is important not to forget to spend time to be intimate. Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the start of a whole new life together. If you sense that something is not right in your relationship, you need to make time for each other so that you can save your marriage.
People are constantly busy nowadays so if you do not find time for your spouse so as to rekindle the love in your relationship, it will hit trouble. It is definitely not worthwhile to spend all your time carving out a career for your family only to discover that you have lost your marriage in the end!
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For me, sometimes when your arguing or having problems it's best to take your time and talk about it the next day. Some problems cannot be solved overnight. I believe that when you're both cooled down and calm, whatever the problem is will be solved.
Resources of How to Save Your Marriage
A lot of marriage failed because couples do not take responsibility for the role that they play in a relationship. Very often, blaming the other instead of oneself become the favourite pastime of couples and when there are conflicts, they choose the most convenient mean - walking away instead of trying to save the marriage!
Apparently these couples have short term memories because they are the same individuals who have vowed to support and to love each other through thick and thin! However, divorce has now become an easy way out for people who do not have the courage to salvage what deserves to be salvaged. When couples go through a divorce, they channel all their energies into accusing each other of causing hurt and disharmony in the marriage. They forget that in the process, their children are the ones most deeply hurt! If they have channeled their energies to save the marriage, more than one human being is saved!
So is it possible to save your marriage? Yes, if you had loved each other in the first place, you will definitely be able to rekindle the love and here are 3 ways in which you can save your marriage.
1. Share financial responsibilities
Many married couples forget that it takes two hands to clap so now that they are married, both party should be responsible for the family financially. Being married means you are united as one so you should shoulder the burden of raising a family together.
Find out each others' spending style and come to a compromise on how best you can save and at the same time not have to sting on yourself. Spend some time to prioritize what is important to you and to your family, especially if you have children. You need to come to a mutual agreement on how you can divide out the burden of financial responsibility.
2. Never go to bed angry
I strongly believe that this is very sound advice to building a lasting relationship because you and your spouse are two very different individuals so there are bound to be conflicts. The important point is that you must find ways to resolve those conflicts. By all means take time off to cool down but after a storm, both of you have to sit down and discuss the issue together. You have to listen to each other and find a solution or come to a compromise but never leave the fight overnight.
It is very unhealthy to go to bed angry and you will only cause a drift in the relationship if you do not try to resolve your problem first. After which, you should forget about the fight and make up for it in bed. It is vital to forget about the problem after the fight had been resolved if you want to save your marriage.
3. Plan time for romance
Many married couples forget to plan a time for romance, especially if they have children. In order for a marriage to last long, it is important not to forget to spend time to be intimate. Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the start of a whole new life together. If you sense that something is not right in your relationship, you need to make time for each other so that you can save your marriage.
People are constantly busy nowadays so if you do not find time for your spouse so as to rekindle the love in your relationship, it will hit trouble. It is definitely not worthwhile to spend all your time carving out a career for your family only to discover that you have lost your marriage in the end!
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For me, sometimes when your arguing or having problems it's best to take your time and talk about it the next day. Some problems cannot be solved overnight. I believe that when you're both cooled down and calm, whatever the problem is will be solved.
Resources of How to Save Your Marriage
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