Why whispering could save your marriage

When times get tough in relationships, we will more often than not find ourselves raising both our voices and most likely our blood pressure.

But according to consultant forensic psychologist Kerry Daynes, whispering sweet nothings could just save your marriage.

She told The Telegraph: "When couples are having difficulty communicating with each other, whispering can be a helpful technique.

"It requires both parties to make a conscious effort to listen. The whisperer is likely to slow down their communication and therefore think a little more about what they are saying.

"Meanwhile, the whisperee has to concentrate in order to hear what has been said and so may listen more effectively than usual."

Of course, it's not always that simple. A recent study in Texas revealed that emotional whisperings are more effective when delivered to the left ear so you'll need to bear that in mind.

And there is always the chance that you'll be entirely misheard, resulting in a row over whatever it was you were trying not to row about.

While Daynes admits that though it is "a simplistic strategy", it does "help to create an atmosphere of intimacy.

"It requires proximity – you obviously have to get close to be heard," she says.

And therein lies the problem.





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I haven't think that whispering can be a good communication tool for couples. I think she is right that whisperer can have more time to think and the whisperee will exert more effort to listen. What a brilliant idea.

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