Marriages are made in heaven, but divorces, they happen right here on earth. So always make sure that you do not rush to things and try out these easy remedies that might actually help you save your marriage.
Try to live separate for a few weeks:
Will separating save a marriage, you might ask. Well, separation can save a marriage but only if you do it right. The philosophy behind this is that human beings tend to take things that belong to them for granted. They forget to appreciate the value of what they possess and realize it only when the thing is taken away.
So plan a business trip or make up an excuse to get away from your loved ones for a while. When you are away, do not completely ignore your husband or wife. Try to send messages to them, email them your status and ask them theirs. Call them once in a while and before disconnecting, say the magic word 'I love you'.
While you are away you realize the things that you took for granted in your lover are no longer there. You tend to miss them and the magnet of love starts attracting the both of you towards each other again.
When you are back home, bring them back something unique and special from your trip. And make sure to tell them that you did miss them when you were away. All of us need a change and this could be just the right thing for the both of you.
Fire up your love life
Not sure how to go about it? Here are a few tips to get your started:
Go to the book store near you and buy a copy of Kamasutra. It does not matter if you read it or not. Just having the book in your house is a good enough sign that you are adventurous and want to try something new!
Invest in some quality CDs that illustrate the art of lovemaking. You can always pick up a thing or two watching them
Try roleplaying. This is a great way to explore your wildest fantasies.
Try to get that secret out. Believe it or not your lover will have at-least one fetish or wild fantasy that he or she is afraid to disclose to you fearing rejection. Try to get this secret out. The best way to do this is to talk to your lover. Firstly reveal your fantasies and then ask your lover to do the same. This is a great way to ensure that both of you get to know each other and your likings better. The more you know each other the better you can pleasure each other in bed
Okay, these were just a few tips, I am sure you got the point. So if you asked the question how can I save a marriage when my husband is living with mistress or my husband cheated, you know what to do.
Let Go of the Ego
Fights happen and ego clashes in fights between husband and wife are common. But are you going to let you ego take over your happy marriage? Probably not, if you are thinking sane. Before rushing into harsh decisions, let the fire settle down. Do not talk to each other for a while, but if your loved one wants to have a chat, support him and try to talk. Do not continue your golden silence.
Marriage is all about adjustments so try as much to accommodate the other person. If thing go beyond control, you can try living separately for a while.
I know a couple, where the husband had a bad drinking habit and this lead to constant fights and arguments. The wife decided to shift in with her parents and after a few weeks the husband came to pick her up promising never the drink again. If your loved one truly loves you, he will come back to you and when he does, accept him happily. Do not keep sulking, as this is the time to let go of your ego.
Share Everything That Happens - Never Hide Things
I know this is easier said than done, but you have to communicate everything that happens in your life to your beloved. This is one way to ensure that when things go wrong, your wife or husband is always there by your side.
>Let's take for instance, finances. Finances can have an adverse impact on your marriage. (So before it happens, learn to save.) If you find yourself in a bad financial situation, the first thing that you got to do is tell your spouse. If she loves you she will support you. But if you hide this fact from her and she comes to know about it at a later time, she is sure to get annoyed and label you as an incapable man.
So no matter what it is share it with your beloved.
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It's all about riding on the same boat. In able for the couple to have a good relationship is having the same goal in life, to have a wonderful and whole family. Sharing your thoughts with each other help a lot to maintain and save your marriage.
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